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Are you stressed out? Have you noticed that when you are resentful, you become more sensitive to life’s little issues?
When you are stressed at work, do you come home and easily lose patience with your kids? Do you get angry at slow traffic or slow grocery lines? Would terms like “exasperated, nervous, irritated, or impatient” describe you?
If so, you are probably over-reacting. And the worst reaction of all is that of resentment. It sets you up for becoming increasingly sensitive to what you might otherwise take in stride.
Most of our upsets are over daily small irritations. You've probably heard the expression "Don't sweat the small stuff." We know this is true, but the problem is we don't know how to not sweat the small stuff. This is because we have literally conditioned ourselves to become irritated. And when the next little thing occurs, our body reacts.
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A small irritant to which we have reacted can literally build to the point that we're ready to have an emotional meltdown over it. Moreover, we react and suppress our emotions all day long, so there is an accumulation of upset and tension leading us to explode in anger at a loved one or reach for the bottle.
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Here is the key.
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1. Learning to watch for and let go of resentment which sustains and reinforces our reaction. It was resentment that led to the very first reaction to a look alike situation long ago, and it is resentment that sustains it and reinforces it.
The resentment must be let go of, whether it be resentment against the situation, the person, the first occurrence, oneself, or resentment against anything.
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If you don't know how to get enough distance mentally to stand back and watch for the resentment, I can teach you how. (Read about the meditation now)
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2. As I will relate later, becoming upset is a way of life for most of us. So the second thing that must be learned is to practice going through life in a more detached way, as more of an observer. In my writings I can show you how and why this dispassionate state of mind and calm state way of living is based on principles of forgiveness and patience.
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In fact, the reader will see that these principles correspond to beautiful religious or philosophical principles you may have heard and appreciated but never learned to to apply.
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When you are not upset in the first place, you won’t become upset and irritable in the second place. You will be patient with your loved ones.
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Learn the secret of self control without painful repression and you will have it made in the shade.
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Read more about why people over-react and get upset
Read Why Do i Get Upset All the Time? Could Resentment Be the Culprit
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